Posted by Joel Tiemeyer on Feb 01, 2020

The Art of War - EMOM #1


Opening Scripture: Romans 8:35-39


As we get into the Word of God today can we celebrate the STUDENT MINISTRIES VOLUNTEERS for all they do.


The Vision for 2020 is ALIVE - Grow, Build, Live. The quickest way for ALIVE to die is to assault the family. This series is about having proper strategies to have successful families. (Graphic)

The Art of War is an ancient Chinese military treatise dating from roughly 5th century BC composed by Chinese military strategist Sun Tzu /'soon DZOO’/ composed of 13 chapters. Each one is devoted to an aspect of warfare and how it applies to military strategy and tactics. The Art of War remains the most influential strategy text in East Asian warfare and has influenced both Eastern and Western military thinking, business tactics, legal strategy, lifestyles and beyond.


Treatise /ˈtrēdis/ - a written work dealing formally and systematically with a subject.


What happens on that one day when you pick your head up and you realize that “It’s broke!”

Now you have to qualify what the “It” is.

Is it the Kids? When just yesterday you were the hero but now you wish you were the zero because at least that is a quantifiable number. Your simply non-existent.

Is it the Marriage? Because you’ve been so busy giving the kids all your life that your spouse gets the leftovers. 

Is it the culture? All families have a culture. It is your way of doing life. Now what used to bring great family fun isn’t working and all your efforts seem futile.


It’s Broke… It is easy to know when, but do you know why? It is easy to know when its broke. But figuring out why its broke makes you want to pull your hair out.


In Crossfit there is a certain style of workout that I like to do when I am trying to get really good at a certain movement. It is called an EMOM. It stands for Every Minute On the Minute. You put a certain amount of time on the clock and hit GO. Every time the clock switches toe the next minute you do that certain amounts of reps and you rest until the next minute.

My Favorite: Chelsea = 5 Pullups, 10 Pushups, 15 Squats for 30 Min.


It’s Broke…It is easy to know when, but do you know why? It was easy to know when my body would break down and want to quit, but it also helped me find the why. Was it bad form, lack of strength, operating with bad technique, or (here is the big one) maybe I was taught wrong and needed to be retaught.  

But I would never find out why it was broke if I wasn’t intentional Every Minute On the Minute.


In your family Pain happens because problems are present.

Your marriage, your relationship with your kids, the system doesn’t break all at once. It is a wearing down process that eventually breaks.

It’s Broke…It is easy to know when, but do you know why? But what if we would be intentional Every Minute In the Minute.

            Intentional:        The phone or their future.

                                    Dinner or Duties

                                    Tolerate or Together


What if, when Jesus shows up, He didn’t fix it but showed you every area it was broke. Then instead of fixing what was broke, He led you into freedom from the brokenness?

It is easier to stay in cultural captivity than to step into uncomfortable freedom.

It takes courage to admit that something isn’t working.


Luke 10:38-42

38 Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house39 And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving (or obligation). And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,42 but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”


Martha was in cultural captivity. Jesus, instead of fixing everything she thought was broke, led her into freedom from her brokenness. 

Get ready, We are all Martha in need of Freedom.


The 5 Breaking points of Cultural Captivity.

  • Obligation
  • Manipulation
  • Victimization
  • Interpretation
  • Expectations


Obligations - “And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house.”

Martha’s invitation led to her cultural captivity of obligation. What are we doing FOR Jesus that isn’t FROM Jesus?

Martha was mad a Mary, because Martha obligated herself to do what Mary didn’t.

You cannot be bitter about life if you have the opportunity but choose the obligation and do not do it.

Martha chose the obligation over the opportunity!

His Visitation brought out her spirit of Obligation.



40 But Martha was distracted with much serving (or obligation). And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.”

            Classic Passive Aggressive:

            When she chose the obligation and Jesus didn’t take her side, she resorted to manipulation.

Lord, do you not care

my sister has left me to serve alone

Tell her then to help me.

            Your manipulations, if not dealt with, will distort your interpretation of what is real.

His Visitation brought out her spirit of Manipulation.


Interpretation - “Lord, do you not care…”

Your spouse cannot read you mind. If you do not communicate what you want, you will become resentful about what they do not give.

            Dishes, Laundry, Sex His Visitation brought out her ungodly Interpretation.


Victimization - “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone?

Victimization - “my sister has left me to serve alone?”

The paradox of life: The opportunity you prayed for is now the obligation you complain the most about. 

Martha invited Jesus over to the house. But His visitation brought out her victimization.


Expectations - “Tell her then to help me.” 

Most expectations are our greatest frustrations, because they centered around our needs and the lack of fulfillment of them.

Self-centeredness makes you blind to your own selfishness while making you hypersensitive to see the perceived self-centeredness in others.  His Visitation brought out her ungodly expectations.


The Art of War is:

What is Important vs. What is Important in the moment.


Jesus’ answer to our Cultural Captivity is this “Come Sit At My Feet.”

Miracles will happen when you grab hold of the opportunities and let go of the obligations.

Here is your opportunity.