Posted by Joel Tiemeyer on Feb 03, 2019

Love is in the “Heir” – It Matters #1


Opening Scripture: Hebrews 13:20-21

Hebrews 13:20-21

20 Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, 21 equip you with everything good that you may do his will, working in us that which is pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen.


In this series our Impact is to rekindle the 2 major covenants in our life. Our Covenant with the Father, and if you’re married, our Covenant with our spouse. 


February is known as the month of Love.

Tina Turner had a hit song a released in 1984 entitled “What’s love got to do with it.”

What's love got to do, got to do with it
What's love but a second hand emotion
What's love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken


These lyrics say a lot about how people view the topic of love in our culture. It is simply a second had emotion.  


Today we need to explore the “Emotion of Love” and contrast it to a “Covenant of Love.”


Second Hand Emotion

Emotion - Comes from the French word emovoir - to stir up

            Root word is “motion” to be moved to motion.

            Moved to tears, moved to make a difference, moved to laughter

  1. Emotions are great, but emotions were never meant to be decision makers.
  2. Emotions are beneficial because they add to the experience but now all we want is emotional experiences.
  3. Because we have let emotions move us we have a mindset that they will move God.


Many of us read the Bible with Love being an Emotion and not a Covenant.

If we read the Bible and live our Christian Faith from this view point of the “Emotion of Love” rather than the “Covenant of Love” then we need to change our verbiage from Christian Faith to Christian Emotion.

I just gave many of you the answer to why our “Christian Faith” doesn’t work. Because it was never Faith, it was Emotion.


First Hand Covenant

So how do we go from a “Second Hand Emotion” to a “First Hand Covenant”?


Many people who do understand that love is more than an emotion fail to fully cross over to understand the word Covenant. Therefore, we relegate the seriousness of a Covenant to a mere contract.

This is why Next Steps and Group Life are so vital at TWBC. We want you to operate in Covenant and instead of just telling you what it is we want to do Covenant with you.  


Contract – A contract is where two parties agree about a certain issue in which stipulations are given, agreement is reached, ratification and signing of the document by both parties occurs, then you become legally bound by the stipulations of the contract.


Covenant - A covenant includes a contract, but it involves a relationship, with the priority on the relationship not the contract. 

This is why buying a car is different than marrying your spouse.

I don’t have to like you to enter into a contract with you to buy a car. In fact, many of us have never met the person we are in contract with. A mediator (sales person) negotiated, set up the terms, helped you sign the contract and we have never met the finance company.   


Now, when I married my wife, I wanted the relationship so much that I willingly signed the contract to bring our relationship to a heavenly standard and not a worldly standard.



The Apostle Paul sets up an amazing parallel to show how the relationship of Christ and the Church works by using marriage.

One big issue, if you do not know how Biblical marriage works you will never get how Christ and the Church should operate.


Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives (Church), submit to your own husbands (Jesus), as to the Lord. 23 For the husband (Jesus) is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives (Church) should submit in everything to their husbands (Jesus).

25 Husbands(Jesus), love your wives(Church), as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.28 In the same way husbands (Jesus) should love their wives (Church) as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man (Jesus) shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife (Church), and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife (Church) as himself, and let the wife (Church) see that she respects her husband (Jesus).


Now in these directives, the Apostle Paul is telling you how to have a Covenant of Love Marriage, but he is using it as an illustration to talk about the Covenant of Love with the Father.


So, lets re-read the above passage replacing Husbands with Jesus and wives with Church.


It Matters

The title of this message is “It Matters” because covenants are so important for these 3 reasons:

  1. Marriage Covenant is a legal relationship established by God.

If it is established by God, it can only be undone by God. Now we like that with Christianity but not so much in marriage. So, if you got married and the blessing of the covenant is in God the earthly judge can’t undo a heavenly covenant.


  1. Covenants function under authority.

It is not about what “he wants” or “she wants”. It is about what God wants in your marriage. We have mortgages, payments and credit card debt because of what the “he or she” wanted then ask God the bless it.

Authority means there is submission or giving up of one’s will.


  1. Covenants are only entered under the penalty of death.

This means, we only enter a covenant, knowing that the only way out is one of us has to die or if it is broken the penalty is death.  

This is why many second marriages don’t succeed. Because the covenant was broken for and unbiblical reason so man, a judge, separated but God didn’t. So, when the covenant was broke part of you died.

Don’t lose hope!!! You can experience resurrection and life.


This is the beauty of Christ. We deserved to die because we broke covenant with the penalty being death. But Christ stepped into our place of death and was crucified for us. With that sacrifice we can get back into the Covenant of Love by Faith in Him.