Posted by Joel Tiemeyer on Oct 21, 2018

Everyday Life – ‘I’ Before ‘E’ #3 

Opening Scripture: Matthew 6:10-11


  1. God wants to use you Everyday “On The Way!”
  2. Dress Casual Series... it is Everyday Life.
  3. I will say or do things to specifically show the disconnect between‪“Sunday Morning” and “Everyday Life.”


Matthew 6:10-11
Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread


In the opening message of this series we are establishing 2 things:

  1. Show the disconnect between‪“Sunday Morning” and “Everyday Life.”
  2. For Matthew 6:10 to happen, “the Kingdom of God to come,” it is not “Suddenly” but in the “Everyday Life!”

Almost every Miracle happened “Everyday – On The Way” not as a specialized set moment in time.

Transformational Thinking Moment:

  • Anything (Fun, Church, Career, Hobbies, Dinner) done outside of the Presence of God is Sin!
  • If we are working forGod and not fromGod have missed it and Christianity is not different to you than any other “works based religion.”        

As we are in this series we are going to follow the life of Martha. Most of us would say “Oh Pastor, I just love to be like Mary, Martha’s sister, and sit at the feet of Jesus and worship.” But the truth is 99% of us fall into the Martha Category.


Luke 10:38-42 Martha and Mary

38 Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house39 And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving (or obligation). And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,42 but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”


Last week we addressed the spirits of:

  • Obligation
  • Manipulation
  • Victimization


I Before E

"I before E, except after C" is a mnemonic rule of thumb for English spelling. If one is unsure whether a word is spelled with the sequence ei or ie, the rhyme suggests that the correct order is ie unless the preceding letter is c, in which case it is ei.

If we have the right “I” interpretation it will help us have proper “E” expectations. 

Today we are going to get real freedom when we understand Interpretations and Expectations.

  • Interpretation
  • Expectations

To do this we have to jump to a different account with the same ladies.


Scripture: John 11:23-27

John 11:23-27 “23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.”24 Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?”27 She said to him, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world.”

John 11:40

40 Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?”


I don’t want you to think of your life as an “instance” any more but begin to think of it as an “occasion.” An “Occasion” takes planning, time to develop, and ends up being a lot more beneficial than to just a few people.

Going out to eat last night was an instance but your wedding was an occasion.

If you do not get the interpretation of your life right, Jesus himself can never meet your expectations, because they are wrong from the foundation.


Interpretation: Instance or Occasion

The Instance:

Luke 7:11

Soon afterward he went to a town called Nain, and his disciples and a great crowd went with him. 12 As he drew near to the gate of the town, behold, a man who had died was being carried out, the only son of his mother, and she was a widow, and a considerable crowd from the town was with her. 13 And when the Lord saw her, he had compassion on her and said to her, “Do not weep.”14 Then he came up and touched the coffin, and the bearers stood still. And he said, “Young man, I say to you, arise.”15 And the dead man sat up and began to speak, and Jesus gave him to his mother.

            Wow, What a great “Instance!”

The difference between an “Instance” and an “Occasion” is not the amount of people who witness it, but the AMOUNT IT AFFECTS.

If we are immature, or have the wrong interpretation, we will celebrate the “Instance” and not the “Occasion” because we do not see the big picture.


The Occasion:

The Story of the Widow of Nain is an “Instance” but the account of Lazarus is an “Occasion.”

John 11:4-6

When Jesus got the message, he said, “This sickness is not fatal. It will become an occasionto show God’s glory by glorifying God’s Son.”   

Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus, but oddly, when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed on where he was for two more days. After the two days, he said to his disciples, “Let’s go back to Judea.”  (Message Bible)


Occasion:Is planned, Deliberate, Not casual, Takes time, Has process

            Instance                       Occasion

            Dinner                          Wedding

            Overnight Stay              Vacation

            House                          Skyscraper


It affects more than just you. God wants to involve people in your story.

It is for someone else not just you. Your life is more like a skyscraper; not a house.

John 11:45 “Many of the Jews therefore, who had come with Mary and had seen what he did, believed in him,”


This “Occasion” was a circumstance not a condition.

            Circumstance - bad things that happen because life is life.

            Conditions - places we find ourselves in because of decisions.


Many people forget the first of the story “But when Jesus heard it he said, “This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it.”

Don’t let something die because you gave up on it in the instance that God is using to make an “Occasion.”



Emotion- Comes from the French word emovoir - to stir up

            Root word is “motion” to be moved to motion.

            Moved to tears, moved to make a difference, moved to laughter

  1. Emotions are great but emotions were never meant to be decision makers.
  2. Emotions are beneficial because they add to the experience but now all we want is emotional experiences.
  3. Because we have let emotions move us we have a mindset that they will move God.


God does not meet your expectation because they are emotionally based and not Faith based.


Bad Attitude/Misery/Anger - Doesn’t Make it Come Quicker

21 Marthasaid to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.

32 Now when Marycame to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him,“Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”


Both the Control Freak (Martha) and the Emotional Basket Case (Mary) had the same attitude.

  • Your attitude is always expressed in what is said.
  • What you speak with your mouth.
  • What you speak with body language.

                        When you’re miserable it doesn’t make the miracle come quicker. It doesn’t make your family situation better.

“We are not immune because we have a microphone, we all go through stuff. But how we go through stuff determines whether or not you get a microphone.”


Who Is On Your Journey

41 So they took away the stone. And Jesus lifted up his eyes and said, “Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this on account of the people standing around, that they may believe that you sent me.”